The well-mannered man pays a compliment to another, and sometimes even secures his respect, by patiently listening to him.

He is simply tolerant and forbearant, and refrains from judging harshly; and harsh judgments of others will almost invariably provoke harsh judgments of ourselves.
The unpolite impulsive man will, however, sometimes rather lose his friend than his joke.

He may surely be pronounced a very foolish person who secures another's hatred at the price of a moment's gratification.
It was a saying of Brunel the engineer--himself one of the kindest-natured of men--that "spite and ill-nature are among the most expensive luxuries in life." Dr.Johnson once said: "Sir, a man has no more right to SAY an uncivil thing than to ACT one--no more right to say a rude thing to another than to knock him down." A sensible polite person does not assume to be better or wiser or richer than his neighbour.

He does not boast of his rank, or his birth, or his country; or look down upon others because they have not been born to like privileges with himself.

He does not brag of his achievements or of his calling, or "talk shop" whenever he opens his mouth.