Many men and women have found, to their surprise, that although they are in love with wife or husband they are not at all in love with the respective families and still less inclined to accept each other's chosen friends as their own.

One angle alone of the many-sided character may have "made the match;" quite other angles have already attracted and still hold the friends.

These often mutually incongruous friends of both sides must somehow be made to attach themselves to the marriage plan or they may work much harm to the new home.
The art of holding on to old associations and yet substituting, where substitution is wise or necessary, a new for an established relationship is a great art.

In the case of the newly married whose friends have been in widely different circles, it is often an impossible one.
Here is where the social wisdom that in some manner essays to make the twain to be later one a part of the same or a very similar social group, shows its finest results.

When marriage was arranged by the elders of the respective families there was likely to be a similarity in the social standards of the two circles from which the bride and groom were drawn.