It's a thing that you can't undo again once you've done it.

I must see the man myself before I take any further steps." "You can't have him here, J.J.

He's a horrid little cad, and I won't have him inside this house." "I'm not asking you to, at present.

Later on if it becomes necessary in the interests of justice to patch up some appearance of a reconciliation between you and him I shall, of course, ask him here; but in the meanwhile--" "You may entertain him yourself, if you do." "I may.

But that won't deter me from doing my duty.