But on the other hand, if one gives way from childhood to all ugly tempers, all resentful feelings, all bitterness and anger, his life will shape itself into the unbeauty of these dispositions.

One whose mind turns to debasing things, things unholy, unclean, will find his whole soul bending and growing toward the earth in permanent moral curvature.
There is also a bending of the life by sorrow.

The experience of sorrow is scarcely less perilous than that of temptation.

The common belief is that grief always makes people better.

But this is not true.
If the sufferer submits to God with loving confidence, and is victorious through faith, sorrow's outcome is blessing and good.