Does not the same law of love "that seeketh not its own" apply when our beloved ones are called up higher?
Of lessons to be learned in sorrow the first always is submission.

We are told even of our Lord that he "learned obedience by the things which he suffered." This is life's great, all-inclusive lesson.

When we have learned this fully, perfectly, the work of sanctification in us is complete.
Then another lesson in all sorrow comes in the softening and enriching of the life in order to greater personal helpfulness.

It is sad for us if for any cause we miss this blessed outcome of grief and pain.
Christ suffered in all points that he might be fitted for his work of helping and saving men.

God teaches us in our sorrow what he would have us tell others in their time of trial.