And that's your hold.
"And if you love him as I love Joe," she added almost in a whisper, "you find it so easy that often you forget what it is you're trying to do, what you're really doing it for.

You're just happy and you shut your eyes.

But then you wake up and use it all--everything--to drive him on.
You can do that while you are still young and have what he wants--the looks, I mean--and can make him see that any number of other men would be glad to step into his shoes.

But you give them only just enough to keep your husband from feeling too safe.

You hold them off, you make him feel that he's everything to you if he'll work and give you what you ought to have! And unless you're a fool you don't listen to this talk of women's rights and women doing the work of men.