The more external disagreement was in the matter of "the home," and the housekeeping duties and pleasures we, by instinct and long education, supposed to be inherently appropriate to women.
I will give two illustrations, one away up, and the other away down, to show how completely disappointed we were in this regard.
For the lower one, try to imagine a male ant, coming from some state of existence where ants live in pairs, endeavoring to set up housekeeping with a female ant from a highly developed anthill.

This female ant might regard him with intense personal affection, but her ideas of parentage and economic management would be on a very different scale from his.
Now, of course, if she was a stray female in a country of pairing ants, he might have had his way with her; but if he was a stray male in an anthill--! For the higher one, try to imagine a devoted and impassioned man trying to set up housekeeping with a lady angel, a real wings-and-harp-and-halo angel, accustomed to fulfilling divine missions all over interstellar space.

This angel might love the man with an affection quite beyond his power of return or even of appreciation, but her ideas of service and duty would be on a very different scale from his.

Of course, if she was a stray angel in a country of men, he might have had his way with her; but if he was a stray man among angels--! Terry, at his worst, in a black fury for which, as a man, I must have some sympathy, preferred the ant simile.

More of Terry and his special troubles later.