It cannot be said that either of these ideals is absolutely unsound; each is part of the truth; it is only as a complete statement of the truth that they become pathetically inadequate.

It is to be noted that both of them are based solely on the physical act of sexual conjunction, and that they are both exclusively self-regarding.

So that they are, after all, although the nearest approach to the erotic sphere he may be able to find, yet still not really erotic.

For love is not primarily self-regarding.

It is the intimate, harmonious, combined play--the play in the wide as well as in the more narrow sense we are here concerned with--of two personalities.
It would not be love if it were primarily self-regarding, and the act of intercourse, however essential to secure the propagation of the race, is only an incident, and not an essential in love.
Let us turn to the average woman.