[Books and Habits from the Lectures of Lafcadio Hearn by Lafcadio Hearn]@TWC D-Link bookBooks and Habits from the Lectures of Lafcadio Hearn CHAPTER VII 14/39
The man who is very superior is likely to be ignored or disliked. Mediocrity can not help disliking superiority; and as the old Northern sage declared, "the average of men is but moiety." Moiety does not mean necessarily mediocrity, but also that which is below mediocrity.
What we call in England to-day, as Matthew Arnold called it, the Philistine element, continues to prove in our own time, to almost every superior man, the danger of being too wise. Interesting in another way, and altogether more agreeable, are the old sayings about friendship: "Know this, if thou hast a trusty friend, go and see him often; because a road which is seldom trod gets choked with brambles and high grass." Be not thou the first to break off from thy friend.
Sorrow will eat thy heart if thou lackest the friend to open thy heart to. Anything is better than to be false; he is no friend who only speaks to please. Which means, of course, that a true friend is not afraid to find fault with his friend's course; indeed, that is his solemn duty.
But these teachings about friendship are accompanied with many cautions; for one must be very careful in the making friends.
The ancient Greeks had a terrible proverb: "Treat your friend as if he should become some day your enemy; and treat your enemy as if he might some day become your friend." This proverb seems to me to indicate a certain amount of doubt in human nature.
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