Why can't they do the same thing after they're married?
When you and papa were young people and engaged, he'd have done anything you wanted him to.

That must have been because you knew how to manage him then.

Why can't you go at him the same way now ?" Mrs.Adams sighed again, and laughed a little, making no other response; but Alice persisted.

"Well, WHY can't you?
Why can't you ask him to do things the way you used to ask him when you were just in love with each other?
Why don't you anyhow try it, mama, instead of ding-donging at him ?" "'Ding-donging at him,' Alice ?" Mrs.Adams said, with a pathos somewhat emphasized.

"Is that how my trying to do what I can for you strikes you ?" "Never mind that; it's nothing to hurt your feelings." Alice disposed of the pathos briskly.