Every human being instinctively, in such position, consciously or unconsciously, places himself in the attitude of saying: "I am what I am! Now recognize that, and leave me alone! My life is mine to learn its lessons in my own way, just the same as yours is to learn your lessons in your way." This worrying about, and of each other has proven destructive of much domestic happiness, and has wrecked many a marital barque, that started out with sails set, fair wind, and excellent prospects.
Don't worry about each other--_help_ each other by the loving sympathy that soothes and comforts.

Example is worth a million times more than precept and criticism, no matter how lovingly and wisely applied, and few men and women are wise enough to criticise and advise _perpetually_, without giving the recipient the feeling that he is being "nagged." Granted that, from the critic's standpoint, every word said may be true, wise, and just.

This does not, by any means, make it wise to say it.

The mental and spiritual condition of the recipient _must_ be considered as of far more importance than the condition of the giver of the wise exhortations.

The latter is all right, he doesn't need such admonitions; the other does.