It is all in the habit of mind.

If one determines that he, she, will guide, boss, direct, control the other, one of two or three things is sure to occur.
I.The one mind _will_ control the other, and an individual will live some one else's life instead of its own.

This is the popular American notion of the life of the English wife.

She has been trained during the centuries to recognize her husband as lord and master, and she unquestionably and unhesitatingly obeys his every dictate.

Without at all regarding this popular conception as an accurate one, nationally, it will serve the purpose of illustration.
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