"So when a really alive, vigorous, pushing, and resisting personality comes in contact with us, we say, 'How hard! How unfeeling!' The truth, of course, is that Ross is more like the flabby things--his environment dominates him, while Dory dominates his environment.

But you like the Ross sort, and you're right to suit yourself.

To suit yourself is the only way to avoid making a complete failure of life.

Wait till Dory comes home.

Then talk it out with him.