However, to be happy, one must forget what cannot be altered." In reality, she was not in the least "featherheaded." Her life proved that, and it is apparent, too, in the words I found on another page of her journal, at thirteen: "Mother and Martha are at the Drakes; I will learn my hymn, and then read in the Bible about the sufferings of Jesus.
Oh, what anguish that must have been! And I?
What do I do that is good, in making others happy or consoling their trouble?
This must be different, Paula! I will begin a new life.

Mother always says we are happy when we deny self in order to do good.

Ah, if we always could! But I will try; for He did, though He might have escaped, for our sins and to make us happy." ===.