That sort of progenitor is your "permanent aristocracy." Hard enemy.

She must have some of her mother in her, too.
Abuse me to her, admit the justice of reproaches, but say, reason, good feeling--I needn't grind at it.

Say I respect her.

Advise her to swallow the injury--not intended for insult.

I don't believe anything higher than respect can be offered to a woman.