Better have him leave you now than after you are married.

Remember, too, that if by this declaration you should lose his love you will at least gain his respect.

Perhaps, if his heart is tender and he feels for the suffering and wronged, you may keep both.
Forgive me, dear, but I have only your happiness at heart, and I love you too dearly not to warn you against any danger which would threaten you.

Martha agrees with me in the above, and knows you will do right by him." When Lucy's answer arrived weeks afterward--after her marriage, in fact--Jane read it with a clutching at her throat she had not known since that fatal afternoon when Martha returned from Trenton.
"You dear, foolish sister," Lucy's letter began, "what should I tell him for?
He loves me devotedly and we are very happy together, and I am not going to cause him any pain by bringing any disagreeable thing into his life.

People don't do those wild, old-fashioned things over here.
And then, again, there is no possibility of his finding out.