No one really respects a sham, and the most intelligent, the most tactful hypocrite that ever lived is nothing but a sham,--_false_ and a sham! Beside, no one can manage another by the process of sham and hypocrisy without sooner or later being found out, and when he is found out, all his power is gone.
The trouble with the contrary-minded is they have an established habit of resistance.

Sometimes the habit is entirely inherited, and has never been seen or acknowledged.

Sometimes it has an inherited foundation, with a cultivated superstructure.
Either way it is a problem for those who have to deal with it,--until they understand.

The "contrary method" does not solve the problem; it is only a makeshift; it never does any real work, or accomplishes any real end.

It is not even lastingly intelligent.
The first necessity in dealing truly with these people is _not to be afraid of their resistances._ The second necessity, which is so near the first that the two really belong side by side, is _never to meet their resistances with resistances of our own._ If we combat another man's resistance, it only increases his tension.
No matter how wrong he may be, and how right we are, meeting resistance with resistance only breeds trouble.