They have at all events personal delicacy.

But what I insist upon is, that Winifred would rather marry than not.

And we must carefully bear that fact in mind.

A strained ideal is as bad, practically, as no ideal at all.

Only the most exceptional girl will believe it her duty to remain single as an example and support to what we call the odd women; yet _that_ is the most human way of urging what you desire.