When a woman speaks of giving up society, what she means is giving up admiration.

You can never have given up that--you can never have escaped from it.

You must have found it even at Sorrento." "It may have been there, but I never found it.

It was very respectful--it never expressed itself." "That is the deepest kind," said Bernard.
"I prefer the shallower varieties," the young girl answered.
"Well," said Bernard, "you must remember that although shallow admiration expresses itself, all the admiration that expresses itself is not shallow." Miss Vivian hesitated a moment.
"Some of it is impertinent," she said, looking straight at him, rather gravely.
Bernard hesitated about as long.
"When it is impertinent it is shallow.

That comes to the same thing." The young girl frowned a little.
"I am not sure that I understand--I am rather stupid.